Last night I watched an inspirational speaker on Public
Broadcast Television. I was intrigued. The speaker was Dr. Christiane Northrup
whom I had first heard of when I purchased her New York Times best seller,
"The Wisdom of Menopause" in 2003.
She has
undoubtedly earned her place as a trusted medical adviser as a board certified
obstetrician/gynecologist with both clinical and teaching experience. This
particular speaking engagement, which premiered on February 28, 2015 was
entitled "Glorious Women Never Age." A title like that will always reel
me in.
A
peculiarity I noticed right off the bat was that there were men in the
audience. I wondered if they were there supporting their women or they thought
they might also benefit somehow. It turned out to be an inspiring and
motivating speech from which all adults could draw information and solid
advice.
During the
entire program, she spoke freely to the audience, pacing back and forth on
the stage looking completely at ease, but energetic. During one particular segment of her speech,
she told us about the many surveys surrounding folks who have lived to be 100
or more years old. She referred to them as "centenarians", the title given
to an apparently ageless over-achiever who has seen a century of family,
friendships and worldly events. Dr. Northrup told us that when asked specific
questions, these long term survivors have quite a bit in common and many of
their answers coincide.
The
questions and answers they gave when asked how they managed to live so long
under the same circumstances that we all share were very based on common sense.
The answers they gave contained many common trait characteristics involving
humor, courage, determination and self-love. But one question really amazed me.
When asked what practices they tended to do more regularly toward the end of
the century, they answered that they hardly ever went to see a doctor!
Now when I
thought about this, it made sense. Surgery is risky at that late age and I
suppose at some point it wouldn't even be an option so they don't want to hear
about it. Coupled with that line of thinking, they answered that they almost
never thought about the future. They lived in the present, productively in a
day-by-day behavior pattern enjoying precisely what they were doing at the
moment. To them, tomorrow was another day and they would wait to see what would
come of it as opposed to planning.
Some of
them, when asked "when was the last time you saw a doctor?" couldn't
remember because they had stopped long before the question was asked. I had to
think about this statement. What is a benefit, in very old age, of skipping
doctor visits?
Perhaps
less poking and probing to find conditions that need to be "fixed?"
Maybe when these doctor appointments among the very elderly are skipped there
is less drug prescribing, less joint replacement recommendations, less
over-the-counter medication discussions where things like sleep aids, antacids
and constipation concoctions are often encouraged. Think about that for a
moment.
As Dr.
Northrup revealed this answer I began to think back to the time when my beloved
mother-in-law began the process of her downward health spiral. She was a loving
and physically strong Irish woman who lived her life to the fullest. She raised
six children with her husband. After he
passed away when the youngest child turned twenty, she found her calling as a
much needed matriarch to her enormous brood. She lived vigorously and
effortlessly spending her retirement with her children and many grandchildren
often helping to raise and nurture each child from infancy. She had her own
place, but spent many nights traveling between her children's homes to stay for
prolonged visits. She was sought after but shared her life fairly among
everyone and we were all amazed at her ability to sleep anywhere, anytime,
while attacking any obstacle that arose. She was the strong one and the glue
that held us together as they say.
When she
turned 70, things started to change for her. Yearly visits to the doctor had
been resulting in more and more prescription drugs as various conditions were
diagnosed and "treated." Her counter top became crowded with a
cluster of pills and creams. She still seemed strong but rested more often and
at some point began to nap frequently. "The medicines make me
sleepy", she would say. The inter-family travel became less frequent. She
gained weight from the inactivity. Eventually, without exercise, prediabetes set in. Treatment for this
condition required more drugs that made her sleepier.The downward spiral began to pick up momentum.
I asked
her, at one point what would happen if all the "medication" were
stopped. If she could just turn the clocks back a few years to where there were
none. She told me she trusted her doctor, whom she had known for years and
everything she was taking would "cure" her, so she was told and she
was waiting for that day to come. I asked her why, if a medicine was a cure,
would she have to take it for the rest of her life? Cure to me, means you are
better and returned to a normal, previous state of "non-medicated" being.
After a few
years of waiting to get better, she was referred for knee replacement
surgery. It was necessary she thought, to have a new and improved joint which
would aid in her over-all treatment. He body was getting weaker with every
passing year and I was surprised she would opt for a surgery that would
inevitably cause her much pain and a prolonged recovery period. After her
surgery and a grueling rehabilitation stint, she was grateful to be back home
to rest quietly and comfortably. She was still relatively young (in her mid 70s)
and hoped to regain her mobility. She was waiting for that time when she could once
again travel to see her family members. That time would never come.
While
re-cooperating at home, she would have a bad fall, require stitches in her
forehead and more pain and anxiety medication. I'm not exactly sure what
happened but sometime after this, her health declined further and she was
placed in hospice. She believed this was another rehabilitation endeavor and
once cured, she would return home. She lied in bed dreaming of her former life
and I visited often. When I asked how she felt, her answer was always, "I
am fine, but they are trying to kill me with all this medicine!"
I think in
the end, the tables turned and she no longer saw drugs as a saving grace and
avenue to change for the better. Every drug had a bad side effect that required
more drugs and comfort drugs for the new symptoms that came about. She realized
she was in a vicious cycle. In the end, her kidneys failed and she was subject to constant dialysis which is difficult. The cycle never
ended. Eventually, each vital bodily function gave up and gave out and she fell
into a deep life supported scenario in which she stayed until her last breath.
It was so devastating to see her in that last state that I passed on
visitation, wanting only to remember her past and the youthful, vibrant woman
she always was.
It took
about seven years to go from alive, youthful and vibrant to medicated, inactive
and death.
Seven short years.
This woman
did not have cancer or a sudden heart attack. Her yearly physicals always
yielded great results. I will never understand how this happened.
I
rationalized it like everyone else did. I am not a doctor. I don't know and
didn't see the results or findings of any tests she may have had. I thought
that her trust in her primary care physician was a private friendship that she
felt was enough to sustain her. Maybe something dreadful had invaded her and we
just didn't know about it. I will never understand this unnatural progression.
So this
survey answer, how centenarians tend to stay away from
doctors, may be worth thinking about. Maybe due to their unavoidable haste which results
in hurried, fragmented care, our doctors may recommend unnecessary treatments
that can truly make us weaker. Maybe in this weakened state our body starts to
fail. Maybe at a time and age when we should be encouraged to exercise and eat
better we are told to rest and food is not looked at as an issue. I don't know
the answer but I know I will be watching my life very closely in this second
half. I am going to put daily behaviors in place at age 60 that I will not
change no matter how old I get. I will nourish my body with foods that have no
adverse side effects and resort to man-made drugs only as a life-saving option.
I will never take over-the-counter drugs just to "feel better." I
will gage my weakness and counteract with strength building routines.
I want to be the person who is asked how I've lived my life
so long and in such a youthful way, cutting no corners. If 100 years can be
enjoyed by others, I will be no exception to that rule. My doctor will have to
find someone else to "fix."
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